"The difference between Love & True Love is the difference between a very large number & infinity." - JBP

Infinity... could you imagine loving another all the way to infinity? If so, you're off to a good start. Because you can only experience the magic of True Love if you have the audacity to believe in it.

I'm an idealist when it comes to romance, but I'm not talking about happily-ever-after fairy tales here. I'm talking about True Love as a crucible for your own personal development, a path to self-actualization. I'm talking about epic evolutionary love—the kind that history, literature, and poetry remembers.

A True Love relationship is a gymnasium where we build our emotional muscles. It's a dojo for practicing the 'kata' of feeling it all. In relationships, we often dismiss our partner's complaints and defend our behaviors, perceiving criticism as an attack on our core self.

But what if most complaints were actually a fumbled version of: "Honey, I love you. I see you big, I believe in your greatness, and I know you can and will do better." What if it was OUR job to find the sacred commitment behind each complaint?

If you look deeply at what your partner gets upset about, you'll often find that even though some of it is their 'crazy,' there's usually a pattern they've identified in you that's keeping you trapped. Their reflection is an offering of liberation.

Whether it's about being late, leaving dishes in the sink, or acting insensitively, they're often highlighting unconscious parts of you that carry shame and live in your blind spot.

In True Love relationships, our partner becomes a sacred mirror, reflecting both our brilliance and our shadow. We may not always like what we see, but we need mirrors to truly see ourselves.

Your partner is hired by your heart to emancipate you from smallness, to wake you where you've stopped growing. And if they're good, they'll risk your disapproval to do it. A good mate stands fiercely for your magnificence—and will defend it, even against yourself.

As my husband Eben says, "It doesn't take a lot to be in love, it takes everything."

Your True Love partner holds a vision for you that transcends any you could hold for yourself. They see us bigger than anyone else, and that's what inspires us to become extraordinary.

Michelangelo saw his famous sculpture, David, hidden inside a block of marble. He claimed to simply carve away everything that wasn't David. Likewise, your partner helps you shed fear-driven defenses until all that remains is your true, triumphant self.

What is Freedom?

Freedom is often seen as the ability to do whatever we want, a life without constraints. But true freedom is about accessing our greatness and pursuing our highest destiny.

Paradoxically, constraints breed art and innovation. Your True Love partner becomes the optimal constraint that shapes and reveals your most exquisite self.

We need boundaries to learn who we are. A child's safety comes from boundaries, and adults require similar containment for growth. A partner's needs and visions shape that container, guiding mutual development.

Many view commitment as the end of freedom. But the right relationship makes you fall more in love with yourself. We don't fall in love with another; we fall in love with who we get to be around them.

We're often enslaved by emotions—fear, shame, envy—that go unfelt and become shadows, causing disconnection and pain. Feeling deeply is the way back to freedom.

Love isn't a single feeling; it's ALL feelings. Through our awareness, we break True Love into the full spectrum of human emotions, honoring every color, even those we don't prefer.

Nothing challenges us like romance. True Love will push us to our limits, but it's the force that keeps us committed when every part of us wants to run.

This commitment offers a strange kind of freedom. When you stay, you trade width for depth, moving from skimming life to diving into its depths.

When you fall in love and choose that love as your highest priority, your partner becomes the trampoline that launches you towards your dreams—and you become theirs.

No matter how much you achieve, if you don't experience True Love, you'll miss life's most fulfilling experience. True Love meets us, knows us, and sees us to the bone.

Once you know you're loved deeply and unconditionally, you can be anything. And that, to me, is real freedom.

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