“If you don’t believe in True Love, how can you ever have it?”
With an Honors Science Degree in Biology & Philosophy (minor in Buddhism), my studies include evolutionary psychology, integral theory, spiral dynamics, inter-generational family systems and therapeutic sexuality. With professional certifications in Coaching, NLP and Clinical Hypnosis, my tools extend to metaphoric narrative, role-play and interacting with clients as their highest selves.
In my coaching, I help individuals attract, create and foster extraordinary connections that maximize freedom and minimize shame.
- Singles who are done with dating & ready to find their partner
- Couples wanting to resolve conflicts that erode their connection
We loved each other but couldn’t find a way to make it work. With my heart broken -feeling deflated & ashamed- I was then forced to move back in with my family. My self-esteem was waning so I returned to my corporate career as an IT Consultant. I avoided men while my heart healed. Work kept me busy as I focused on earning money, going to the gym, making friends & reading self-help books.
Two relationships followed and both men were loving & brilliant, but not right for me. One was a nerdy mathematician, rational but unemotional. The other was a struggling entrepreneur who lived with his dad. Both ended respectfully. Feeling hopeless, I quit my IT job for my life's calling: Love Coach. Being aligned with my purpose might now attract the right partner.
Suddenly a handsome young doctor started to adore me. He was successful, ready for marriage & kids. I was 38 yrs & my bio-clock was ticking, yet my heart was hesitant to commit. He was amazing, but I suspected I was going for a good enough “baby daddy” rather than my soulmate. True Love must take priority over the desire for a child. Staying would have been selling out on my soul’s truth.
After deep inner work, I let go of ‘needing’ to be a mother & compromising on True Love. Finally, I met someone who redefined what a “man” was for me. Talking on stage at Burning Man, his words blew my mind & heart wide open. His name was Eben Pagan and within months we were deeply in love. Standing fiercely for each others’ growth as sacred mirrors, we committed to each other for life.
At the start of our romance, we fought a lot. It was a laboratory for conflict resolution. Every argument was a painful yet educational process, learning how to love each other better. Like all muscles, the heart gets stronger each time it rips & heals. We learned to argue with dignity -towards self & other. Together we began teaching on stage on conflict resolution & true love.
Eben wasn’t interested in having children. To be with him, I might need to give up that dream. At 40 yrs old, time was running out. Still, I stayed at his side. Once he realized that I loved him more than I wanted a baby, something new opened up between us. We both felt a child courting us. At 41 yrs, I was pregnant and Eben was delighted. Our daughter - born naturally at home - was named “Love”.
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