I Love You, I Hate You…

I never thought I was capable of hatred. It was the ugliest human emotion, one my identity loathed to own. Sadness, fear, shame, pain…I could entertain all of them, but anger had no place at the table. My husband was the first person who gave me permission to be angry. Somehow he knew beneath my rage was a sacred truth…

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Should I Stay or Should I Go?

How to know when a couple should break up or stay together… -especially if you’re in one?               The conclusion to break-up can be an honest, heart-felt assessment made from a calm, loving place OR it can erupt from a myopic, triggered frustration based on intense pain, jealousy or anger. All too often it’s…

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Do You Cry or Do You Lie?

Crying is a secret sacred place, a place of solitude. It’s not a space we navigate with much finesse; there are few maps on how to cry. Many conflicting feelings arise around tears -fear of looking weak, of being too emotional, guilt for making others feel bad, relief at sharing pent-up thoughts, joy at being seen in our truth. To…

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Love is Pain

For those of you who want deep love, but are afraid of risking disappointment & pain, here’s something I’ve been learning…to say yes to love, is to say yes to pain. There’s pleasure in romance, of course -the highest form available to human beings (in my opinion). But every love story has a cost, it’s the cost of opening your…

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More Sex + Deeper Love = More Money

Could true love & better sex help align you with your purpose, create more value and drive higher levels of financial success? I love you > you love me > I love me If your heart is lonely, desolate and not enlivened, everything you do will be less radiant, less engaging and less successful. If you don’t believe you’re truly…

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6 things he must feel to fall in love

5 Things He Must Feel To Fall In Love

Want to be in love forever? If so, you first need to know how to recognize the real thing. Since often, it’s the woman who sees it, before the man. As a relationship expert & love coach, I’ve found the primary indicator of real love is when your body, your heart & your mind all converge on the same undeniable…

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He Wants to Break Up…

Desperate & confused about the volcanic conflict in her relationship, my client “C” recently wrote me for support. After working with her for over 2 years, she finally found her true love. But they were deep in the power struggle phase, fighting all the time. He was ready to give up, pushing hard for a break-up. She was terrified &…

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Annie, My Love Coach

Article from Elle Magazine by Julia Allison Annie the Love Coach: Part 1 I met Annie at a conference during which I actually stood up and announced, “So … I’m  looking for a husband – if you know someone up for the job, point him my way!  Not already a husband to someone else, preferably?”  (Keep in mind this was a marketing conference, not some sort…

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Lover or Liar? Pick One

  Has someone you loved ever lied to you?  How did you feel?  How did you react? Have you ever lied to someone you love? How did it feel to deceive?  What was your ‘reason’?    It doesn’t feel good…lying, or being lied to.   In fact, nothing feels more betraying than to discover someone you trusted has told you…

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Don’t Think You’re Happy

If You Think You’re Happy, You’re Not! Thinking you’re happy doesn’t get you there. Happiness is a feeling in your body, it’s a matrix of 
sensations that arise in your physiology, not in your 
head. In fact, you cannot be happy in your mind. Our head 
is where we go to avoid intense feelings – happy or
 otherwise. Did you…

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